Is monogamy on the way out?

Polyamory RelationshipsPolyamorists believe their time has come. But the fact is that Americans continue to see infidelity as an evil.

When the fight for gay marriage began to gain traction back in the early years of the last decade, social conservative critics usually went beyond denying that marriage could be redefined to include same-sex couples. Many of them argued that homosexuals were much less inclined than heterosexuals to valorize the ideal of monogamy. Allowing gays and lesbians to marry would therefore introduce a polyamorous option into the institution, and adultery would come to be viewed as an acceptable option for all marriages.

A spate of recent articles explicitly making the case for polyamory would seem to vindicate those conservative predictions and worries.

The latest example appeared a few days ago in The New Republic (reprinted from the New Statesman). Three and a half years into a relationship with a woman, author Rosie Wilby finds that “other people act as our kindling. Love breeds love.” The experience leads her to ask rhetorically: What if we all came to view “our relationships as a pyramid structure with our primary partner at the top and a host of lovers, friends, spiritual soul mates, colleagues, and acquaintances beneath that?”

That’s the polyamorist ideal, which Wilby defines as “consensual multiple loving connections, some sexual, some not, in a myriad of combinations and hierarchies.” And, she insists, it’s far better for everyone involved (including children) than the serial monogamy that she sees practiced by many straight and gay couples alike, leading to high rates of separation, divorce, and broken homes. “Instead of serial relationships one after the…

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